feat(eslint-plugin): add allowlist option to exhaustive-deps rule (#10295)

* feat(eslint-plugin): add allowlist option to exhaustive-deps rule

Introduce an `allowlist` option with `variables` and `types` arrays so
stable variables and types can be excluded from dependency enforcement.

Also report member expression dependencies more granularly for call
expressions (e.g. `a.b.foo()` suggests `a.b` instead of only `a`).

BREAKING CHANGE: exhaustive-deps now reports member expression deps more
granularly, so some previously passing code may now report missing deps.
Use the allowlist option to exclude stable variables/types as needed.

* fix

* ci: apply automated fixes

* increase coverage

* address false positives

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