fix: ESM compliant bundling (#3521)

* fix various bundling issues

* add package.json to exports

* remove @svgr/rollup

* remove node v12 from CI

* support devtools/development

* do not alias react-query

* add side effect

* remove "module"

* fix

* fix exports

* add "module"

* update @babel/runtime

* don't preserve modules

* switch back to babel

* add migration note

* update babel

* update rollup

* downgrade @rollup/plugin-commonjs