refactor: use separate cache key in release, run standalone after caching (#5859)

* refactor: remove keytar dep in cross-compile

* refactor: try other keytar package

* refactor: remove keytar step in cross-compile

* fix: manually remove keytar

* try this first

* I think this is it

* Revert "I think this is it"

This reverts commit 5c566b0c0126da1d3baa2f3c69e26fe1cc63fe93.

* okay this is it

* fixup

* try legacy peer

* remove keytar before standalone

* wrong path

* maybe

* revert: change *npm* back to npm*

* revert: don't uninstall keytar

* fix: use npm run standalone-release

* fixup formatting

* Revert "refactor: remove yarn.lock steps (#5850)"

This reverts commit 907747d3949301d8836e71938940f6275b016062.

* fixup: remove the --exclude

* refactor: remove yarn.lock check

* try ddd in postinstall

* refactor: cache before release:standalone

* refactor: add os to cache key in release

* chore: formatting

* Update ci/build/npm-postinstall.sh

* fixup: formatting