Prewarm code-mode host connections at session startup (#40678)

## What changed

- Add the opt-in `code_mode_prewarm` feature to establish the code-mode host session during startup, before the first turn.
- Make in-progress host initialization cancellable so a stalled prewarm does not block shutdown.
- Share a failed connection attempt with concurrent callers instead of immediately starting another attempt.

## Testing

- Verify app-server contacts the configured host before the first turn and can shut down while that connection is stalled.
- Exercise shared remote-host behavior with prewarming enabled.

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