disable disables gradient calculation when getting the prop constant tensor (#3948)

Summary:
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/executorch/pull/3948

As title, to fix the error when exporting/lowering lstm, the error message is:
```
Cell In[13], line 3
      1 from executorch.backends.xnnpack.partition.xnnpack_partitioner import XnnpackPartitioner
----> 3 edge_manager = edge_manager.to_backend(XnnpackPartitioner())
      5 print(edge_manager.exported_program())
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/executorch/exir/program/_program.py:1166, in EdgeProgramManager.to_backend(self, partitioner)
   1164 else:  # apply partitioner to every method
   1165     for name, program in self._edge_programs.items():
-> 1166         new_edge_programs[name] = to_backend(program, partitioner)
   1168 config = EdgeCompileConfig(_check_ir_validity=False)
   1169 return EdgeProgramManager(
   1170     new_edge_programs, copy.deepcopy(self._config_methods), config
   1171 )
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/runtime/lib/python3.10/functools.py:889, in singledispatch.<locals>.wrapper(*args, **kw)
    885 if not args:
    886     raise TypeError(f'{funcname} requires at least '
    887                     '1 positional argument')
--> 889 return dispatch(args[0].__class__)(*args, **kw)
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/executorch/exir/backend/backend_api.py:384, in _(edge_program, partitioner_instance)
    381 for tag, _ in partitioner_result.partition_tags.items():
    382     _maybe_duplicate_constant_nodes(tagged_exported_program, tag, edge_program)
--> 384 tagged_graph_module = _partition_and_lower(
    385     tagged_exported_program.graph_module, partitioner_result, edge_program
    386 )
    388 # TODO(angelayi): Update this signature in a less manual way (maybe through
    389 # retracing)
    390 new_signature, new_state_dict, new_constants = _get_new_signature(
    391     edge_program,
    392     tagged_graph_module,
    393 )
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/executorch/exir/backend/backend_api.py:299, in _partition_and_lower(tagged_graph_module, partition_result, owning_program)
    290 def _partition_and_lower(
    291     tagged_graph_module: torch.fx.GraphModule,
    292     partition_result: PartitionResult,
    293     owning_program: ExportedProgram,
    294 ) -> torch.fx.GraphModule:
    295     """
    296     Partitions the graph module into submodules based on tags, and then lowered the nodes with the same tag as one lowered module, including the submodule from control flow
    297     """
--> 299     partitioned_module = _partition_and_lower_one_graph_module(
    300         tagged_graph_module, partition_result, owning_program
    301     )
    303     # Recursively partition and lower for submodules
    304     for name, submod, _node in get_control_flow_submodules(partitioned_module):
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/executorch/exir/backend/backend_api.py:230, in _partition_and_lower_one_graph_module(tagged_graph_module, partition_result, owning_program)
    224 logging.debug(f"Partitioned graph module: {tagged_graph_module}")
    226 submodule_program = create_exported_program_from_submodule(
    227     submodule, owning_program, tag
    228 )
--> 230 lowered_submodule = to_backend(
    231     delegation_spec.backend_id,
    232     submodule_program,
    233     delegation_spec.compile_specs,
    234 )
    236 # call delegate args should only use user_inputs
    237 call_delegate_args = []
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/runtime/lib/python3.10/functools.py:889, in singledispatch.<locals>.wrapper(*args, **kw)
    885 if not args:
    886     raise TypeError(f'{funcname} requires at least '
    887                     '1 positional argument')
--> 889 return dispatch(args[0].__class__)(*args, **kw)
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/executorch/exir/backend/backend_api.py:113, in _(backend_id, edge_program, compile_specs)
    111 for cls in BackendDetails.__subclasses__():
    112     if backend_id == cls.__name__:
--> 113         copied_edge_program = copy.deepcopy(edge_program)
    114         preprocess_result: PreprocessResult = cls.preprocess(
    115             copied_edge_program,
    116             compile_specs,
    117         )
    118         lowered_module = LoweredBackendModule(
    119             edge_program=edge_program,
    120             backend_id=backend_id,
    121             processed_bytes=preprocess_result.processed_bytes,
    122             compile_specs=compile_specs,
    123         )
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/runtime/lib/python3.10/copy.py:172, in deepcopy(x, memo, _nil)
    170                 y = x
    171             else:
--> 172                 y = _reconstruct(x, memo, *rv)
    174 # If is its own copy, don't memoize.
    175 if y is not x:
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/runtime/lib/python3.10/copy.py:271, in _reconstruct(x, memo, func, args, state, listiter, dictiter, deepcopy)
    269 if state is not None:
    270     if deep:
--> 271         state = deepcopy(state, memo)
    272     if hasattr(y, '__setstate__'):
    273         y.__setstate__(state)
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/runtime/lib/python3.10/copy.py:146, in deepcopy(x, memo, _nil)
    144 copier = _deepcopy_dispatch.get(cls)
    145 if copier is not None:
--> 146     y = copier(x, memo)
    147 else:
    148     if issubclass(cls, type):
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/runtime/lib/python3.10/copy.py:231, in _deepcopy_dict(x, memo, deepcopy)
    229 memo[id(x)] = y
    230 for key, value in x.items():
--> 231     y[deepcopy(key, memo)] = deepcopy(value, memo)
    232 return y
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/runtime/lib/python3.10/copy.py:146, in deepcopy(x, memo, _nil)
    144 copier = _deepcopy_dispatch.get(cls)
    145 if copier is not None:
--> 146     y = copier(x, memo)
    147 else:
    148     if issubclass(cls, type):
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/runtime/lib/python3.10/copy.py:231, in _deepcopy_dict(x, memo, deepcopy)
    229 memo[id(x)] = y
    230 for key, value in x.items():
--> 231     y[deepcopy(key, memo)] = deepcopy(value, memo)
    232 return y
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/runtime/lib/python3.10/copy.py:153, in deepcopy(x, memo, _nil)
    151 copier = getattr(x, "__deepcopy__", None)
    152 if copier is not None:
--> 153     y = copier(memo)
    154 else:
    155     reductor = dispatch_table.get(cls)
File /mnt/xarfuse/uid-27416/e8d86d8d-seed-nspid4026533405_cgpid10356714-ns-4026533402/torch/_tensor.py:86, in Tensor.__deepcopy__(self, memo)
     84     return handle_torch_function(Tensor.__deepcopy__, (self,), self, memo)
     85 if not self.is_leaf:
---> 86     raise RuntimeError(
     87         "Only Tensors created explicitly by the user "
     88         "(graph leaves) support the deepcopy protocol at the moment.  "
     89         "If you were attempting to deepcopy a module, this may be because "
     90         "of a torch.nn.utils.weight_norm usage, "
     91         "see https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/103001"
     92     )
     93 if id(self) in memo:
     94     return memo[id(self)]
RuntimeError: Only Tensors created explicitly by the user (graph leaves) support the deepcopy protocol at the moment.  If you were attempting to deepcopy a module, this may be because of a torch.nn.utils.weight_norm usage, see https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/103001
```
The reason is the constant tensor has the grad_fn when run it without the contextmgr

Reviewed By: angelayi

Differential Revision: D58436236

fbshipit-source-id: 565810b662f0eb086d02ffff9e16d7c86c0304c4