pass down isAsync arg to start/stopOnRenderCallback to indicate thread (#54252)

Summary:
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/facebook/react-native/pull/54252

## Changelog:

[Internal] [Added] - pass down isAsync arg to start/stopOnRenderCallback to indicate thread

make it more explicit where start/stopOnRenderCallback is invoked so we can handle it on each platform in a more thread safe way

Reviewed By: lenaic

Differential Revision: D85365058

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