[compiler] Adjustments to exhaustive deps messages, disable the lint rule (#35192)

Similar to ValidateHookUsage, we implement this check in the compiler
for safety but (for now) continue to rely on the existing rule for
actually reporting errors to users.

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* #35201
* #35202
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