[compiler] Allow mergeRefs pattern (and detect refs passed as ref prop)

Two related changes:
* ValidateNoRefAccessInRender now allows the mergeRefs pattern, ie a function that aggregates multiple refs into a new ref. This is the main case where we have seen false positive no-ref-in-render errors.
* Behind `@enableTreatRefLikeIdentifiersAsRefs`, we infer values passed as the `ref` prop to some JSX as refs.

The second change is potentially helpful for situations such as

```js
function Component({ref: parentRef}) {
  const childRef = useRef(null);
  const mergedRef = mergeRefs(parentRef, childRef);
  useEffect(() => {
    // generally accesses childRef, not mergedRef
  }, []);
  return <Foo ref={mergedRef} />;
}
```

Ie where you create a merged ref but don't access its `.current` property. Without inferring `ref` props as refs, we'd fail to allow this merge refs case.