[compiler] Deprecate noEmit, add outputMode (#35112)

This deprecates the `noEmit: boolean` flag and adds `outputMode:
'client' | 'client-no-memo' | 'ssr' | 'lint'` as the replacement.
OutputMode defaults to null and takes precedence if specified, otherwise
we use 'client' mode for noEmit=false and 'lint' mode for noEmit=true.

Key points:
* Retrying failed compilation switches from 'client' mode to
'client-no-memo'
* Validations are enabled behind
Environment.proto.shouldEnableValidations, enabled for all modes except
'client-no-memo'. Similar for dropping manual memoization.
* OptimizeSSR is now gated by the outputMode==='ssr', not a feature flag
* Creation of reactive scopes, and related codegen logic, is now gated
by outputMode==='client'