[compiler] Show a ref name hint when assigning to non-ref in a callback (#34298)

In #34125 I added a hint where if you assign to the .current property of
a frozen object, we suggest naming the variable as `ref` or `-Ref`.
However, the tracking for mutations that assign to .current specifically
wasn't propagated past function expression boundaries, which meant that
the hint only showed up if you mutated the ref in the main body of the
component/hook. That's less likely to happen since most folks know not
to access refs in render. What's more likely is that you'll (correctly)
assign a ref in an effect or callback, but the compiler will throw an
error. By showing a hint in this case we can help people understand the
naming pattern.

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* #34276
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