[lint] Enable custom hooks configuration for useEffectEvent calling rules (#34497)

We need to be able to specify additional effect hooks for the
RulesOfHooks lint rule
in order to allow useEffectEvent to be called by custom effects.
ExhaustiveDeps
does this with a regex suppplied to the rule, but that regex is not
accessible from
other rules.

This diff introduces a `react-hooks` entry you can put in the eslint
settings that
allows you to specify custom effect hooks and share them across all
rules.

This works like:
```
{
  settings: {
    'react-hooks': {
      additionalEffectHooks: string,
    },
  },
}
```

The next diff allows useEffect to read from the same configuration.

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