server: fix checkpoints creation (#22929)

* common : add common_chat_split_by_role

* cont : fix spans to reach end of message

* server: fix checkpoints creation

- extract message_spans from chat templates
- find the prompt token position before the latest user message
- split prompt batching at that position
- create a context checkpoint before the latest user input
- avoid periodic mid-prompt checkpoints when that position is known
- handle multimodal prompts when mapping text/template positions to server prompt tokens
- add --checkpoint-min-step to control minimum spacing between checkpoints

* cont : clean-up

* Support autoparser detection for message barriers

* server: fix message span delimiter and update docs

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Co-authored-by: Alde Rojas <hello@alde.dev>
Co-authored-by: Georgi Gerganov <ggerganov@gmail.com>
Co-authored-by: Piotr Wilkin <piotr.wilkin@syndatis.com>