[npu] use extension for op builder (#5172)

* update extension

* update cpu adam

* update is

* add doc for cpu adam

* update kernel

* update commit

* update flash

* update memory efficient

* update flash attn

* update flash attention loader

* update api

* fix

* update doc

* update example time limit

* reverse change

* fix doc

* remove useless kernel

* fix

* not use warning

* update

* update