[Feature] Zigzag Ring attention (#5905)

* halfway

* fix cross-PP-stage position id length diff bug

* fix typo

* fix typo

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* unified cross entropy func for all shardformer models

* remove redundant lines

* add basic ring attn; debug cross entropy

* fwd bwd logic complete

* fwd bwd logic complete; add experimental triton rescale

* precision tests passed

* precision tests passed

* fix typos and remove misc files

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* add sp_mode to benchmark; fix varlen interface

* update softmax_lse shape by new interface

* change tester name

* remove buffer clone; support packed seq layout

* add varlen tests

* fix typo

* all tests passed

* add dkv_group; fix mask

* remove debug statements

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