player: some further cleanup of the mp_cancel crap

Alway give each demuxer its own mp_cancel instance. This makes
management of the mp_cancel things much easier. Also, instead of having
add/remove functions for mp_cancel slaves, replace them with a simpler
to use set_parent function. Remove cancel_and_free_demuxer(), which had
mpctx as parameter only to check an assumption. With this commit,
demuxers have their own mp_cancel, so add demux_cancel_and_free() which
makes use of it.