perf(drizzle): further optimize postgres row updates (#13184)

This is a follow-up to https://github.com/payloadcms/payload/pull/13060.

There are a bunch of other db adapter methods that use `upsertRow` for
updates: `updateGlobal`, `updateGlobalVersion`, `updateJobs`,
`updateMany`, `updateVersion`.

The previous PR had the logic for using the optimized row updating logic
inside the `updateOne` adapter. This PR moves that logic to the original
`upsertRow` function. Benefits:
- all the other db methods will benefit from this massive optimization
as well. This will be especially relevant for optimizing postgres job
queue initial updates - we should be able to close
https://github.com/payloadcms/payload/pull/11865 after another follow-up
PR
- easier to read db adapter methods due to less code.

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