Tier 2 cleanups and tweaks (#115534)

* Rename `_testinternalcapi.get_{uop,counter}_optimizer` to `new_*_optimizer`
* Use `_PyUOpName()` instead of` _PyOpcode_uop_name[]`
* Add `target` to executor iterator items -- `list(ex)` now returns `(opcode, oparg, target, operand)` quadruples
* Add executor methods `get_opcode()` and `get_oparg()` to get `vmdata.opcode`, `vmdata.oparg`
* Define a helper for printing uops, and unify various places where they are printed
* Add a hack to summarize_stats.py to fix legacy uop names (e.g. `POP_TOP` -> `_POP_TOP`)
* Define helpers in `test_opt.py` for accessing the set or list of opnames of an executor