GH-145006: add ModuleNotFoundError hints when a module for a differen… (#145007)

* GH-145006: add ModuleNotFoundError hints when a module for a different ABI exists

Signed-off-by: Filipe Laíns <lains@riseup.net>

* Fix deprecation warnings

Signed-off-by: Filipe Laíns <lains@riseup.net>

* Use SHLIB_SUFFIX in test_find_incompatible_extension_modules when available

Signed-off-by: Filipe Laíns <lains@riseup.net>

* Add test_incompatible_extension_modules_hint

Signed-off-by: Filipe Laíns <lains@riseup.net>

* Fix Windows

Signed-off-by: Filipe Laíns <lains@riseup.net>

* Show the whole extension module file name in hint

Signed-off-by: Filipe Laíns <lains@riseup.net>

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Signed-off-by: Filipe Laíns <lains@riseup.net>