gh-110722: Make `-m test -T -j` use sys.monitoring (GH-111710)

Now all results from worker processes are aggregated and
displayed together as a summary at the end of a regrtest run.

The traditional trace is left in place for use with sequential
in-process test runs but now raises a warning that those
numbers are not precise.

`-T -j` requires `--with-pydebug` as it relies on `-Xpresite=`.