[3.12] gh-109980: Fix test_tarfile_vs_tar on macOS (GH-112905) (#112927)

gh-109980: Fix test_tarfile_vs_tar on macOS (GH-112905)

On recentish macOS versions the system tar
command includes system metadata (ACLs, extended attributes
and resource forks) in the tar archive, which
shutil.make_archive will not do. This can cause
spurious test failures.
(cherry picked from commit dd2ebdf89ff144e89db180bd552c50615f712cb2)

Co-authored-by: Ronald Oussoren <ronaldoussoren@mac.com>