[3.12] gh-110459: Make sure --with-openssl-rpath works on macOS (GH-113441) (#113535)

gh-110459: Make sure --with-openssl-rpath works on macOS (GH-113441)

* gh-110459: Make sure --with-openssl-rpath works on macOS

On macOS the `-rpath` linker flag is spelled differently
than on on platforms.
(cherry picked from commit cc13eabc7ce08accf49656e258ba500f74a1dae8)

Co-authored-by: Ronald Oussoren <ronaldoussoren@mac.com>