gh-102304: Move the Total Refcount to PyInterpreterState (gh-102545)

Moving it valuable with a per-interpreter GIL.  However, it is also useful without one, since it allows us to identify refleaks within a single interpreter or where references are escaping an interpreter.  This becomes more important as we move the obmalloc state to PyInterpreterState.

https://github.com/python/cpython/issues/102304