GH-101291: Rearrange the size bits in PyLongObject (GH-102464)

* Eliminate all remaining uses of Py_SIZE and Py_SET_SIZE on PyLongObject, adding asserts.

* Change layout of size/sign bits in longobject to support future addition of immortal ints and tagged medium ints.

* Add functions to hide some internals of long object, and for setting sign and digit count.

* Replace uses of IS_MEDIUM_VALUE macro with _PyLong_IsCompact().