bpo-35198 Fix C++ extension compilation on AIX (GH-10437)

For C++ extensions, distutils tries to replace the C compiler with the
C++ compiler, but it assumes that C compiler is the first element after
any environment variables set. On AIX, linking goes through ld_so_aix,
so it is the first element and the compiler is the next element. Thus
the replacement is faulty:

ld_so_aix gcc ... -> g++ gcc ...

Also, it assumed that self.compiler_cxx had only 1 element or that
there were the same number of elements as the linker has and in the
same order. This might not be the case, so instead concatenate
everything together.