[3.12] gh-104621: Check for Incompatible Extensions in import_find_extension() (gh-107184) (gh-107360)

gh-104621: Check for Incompatible Extensions in import_find_extension() (gh-107184)

This fixes a bug where incompatible modules could still be imported if attempted multiple times.
(cherry picked from commit 75c974f5353685f338344618ad7344e64c2293d0)

Co-authored-by: Eric Snow <ericsnowcurrently@gmail.com>