bpo-45211: Move helpers from getpath.c to internal API. (gh-28550)

This accomplishes 2 things:

* consolidates some common code between getpath.c and getpathp.c
* makes the helpers available to code in other files

FWIW, the signature of the join_relfile() function (in fileutils.c) intentionally mirrors that of Windows' PathCchCombineEx().

Note that this change is mostly moving code around. No behavior is meant to change.

https://bugs.python.org/issue45211