bpo-31249: Fix ref cycle in ThreadPoolExecutor (#3178)

* bpo-31249: Fix ref cycle in ThreadPoolExecutor

concurrent.futures: WorkItem.run() used by ThreadPoolExecutor now
breaks a reference cycle between an exception object and the WorkItem
object. ThreadPoolExecutor.shutdown() now also clears its threads
set.

* shutdown() now only clears threads if wait is true.

* Revert changes on shutdown()