Reimplement PySequence_Contains() and instance_contains(), so they work

safely together and don't duplicate logic (the common logic was factored
out into new private API function _PySequence_IterContains()).
Visible change:
    some_complex_number  in  some_instance
no longer blows up if some_instance has __getitem__ but neither
__contains__ nor __iter__.  test_iter changed to ensure that remains true.