bpo-32043: New "developer mode": "-X dev" option (#4413)

Add a new "developer mode": new "-X dev" command line option to
enable debug checks at runtime.

Changes:

* Add unit tests for -X dev
* test_cmd_line: replace test.support with support.
* Fix _PyRuntimeState_Fini(): Use the same memory allocator
   than _PyRuntimeState_Init().
* Fix _PyMem_GetDefaultRawAllocator()