bpo-30565: Add PYTHONCOERCECLOCALE=warn runtime flag (GH-2260)

- removes PY_WARN_ON_C_LOCALE build time flag
- locale coercion and compatibility warnings are now always compiled
  in, but are off by default
- adds PYTHONCOERCECLOCALE=warn runtime option to aid in
  debugging potentially locale related compatibility problems

Due to not-yet-resolved test failures on *BSD systems (including
Mac OS X), this also temporarily disables UTF-8 as a locale coercion
target, and skips testing the interpreter's behavior in the POSIX locale.