[3.12] gh-112092: clarify unstable ABI recompilation requirements (GH-112093) (#114260)

gh-112092: clarify unstable ABI recompilation requirements (GH-112093)

Use different versions in the examples for when extensions do and do not need to be recompiled to make the examples easier to understand.
(cherry picked from commit 68a7b78cd5185cbd9456f42c15ecf872a7c16f44)

Co-authored-by: DerSchinken <53398996+DerSchinken@users.noreply.github.com>