fix(ext/node): tls server error message, rejection capture, two compat tests (#34183)

A handful of small node:tls compat improvements found while running the
node_compat parallel/test-tls suite.

The rustls InvalidMessage error text now embeds the OpenSSL-style
SSL routines:ssl3_get_record:wrong version number marker, so Node user
code (and a couple of node_compat tests) that pattern-matches on that
phrase keeps working when a handshake fails with a non-TLS peer.

tls.Server now installs a Symbol.for("nodejs.rejection") handler, so an
async secureConnection listener that rejects destroys the socket with
the error instead of bubbling to uncaughtException. This mirrors what
net.Server already does for the connection event.

Also enables test-tls-timeout-server and test-tls-secure-session in
tests/node_compat/config.jsonc; both pass against the current
implementation and were just missing from the config.