gh-92906: Enable test_cext and test_cppext on Windows (#117000)

On Windows in release mode, the test_cext and test_cppext can now
build C and C++ extensions.

* test_cext now also builds the C extension without options.
* test_cppext now also builds the C++ extension without options.
* Add C++14 test to test_cppext; C++11 is not supported by MSVC.
* Make setup_venv_with_pip_setuptools_wheel() quiet when
  support.verbose is false. Only show stdout and stderr on failure.